Where to find someone to play with...

[NewMexicoVirgin]

Where is a good place to find a safe sane guy to play with?

Ive tried various forums and boards but have had no luck for over a year. I get plenty of replies but so far all have been flakes. All most want to do is send endless messages or never commit to meeting. The few that seem to want to meet end up telling me they really want to "bottom" and suck, which is not what I'm looking for and my ads are quite clear. I dont do bars or clubs so those options are out for me, and theaters seem way too risky.

I'm 41 and have only ever played with one guy, my best friend when we around 12-13. We started out playing in the pool while swimming, first flashing each other, then learning how J/O. We then started touching and stroking, humping pool toys and such. But we never went beyond that as he moved away.

Ive always wanted to pick up where he and I left off, find someone clean, safe, and sane to go all the way with. Ive never given head or been fucked but cant wait to try, I'm super excited and ready but finding the right playmate has been a joke. I would think it easy to find someone wanting to take someones virginity on both ends, but Im about ready to give up.

My wants/needs are pretty simple, as I said clean, safe, and sane, must be tested. Im not into drugs, smoking, or drinking, but don't mind if someone else is. I'm not into spanking or pain, not interested into rough sex as I probably couldn't handle it for a while anyway. Im also not into stuff like piss or poo. I'm willing to give head with a rubber, but would rather do it without so long as the person is tested. And I defiantly want my first time with anal to be 100%... I want the full experience.

Too much to expect?

It doesn't seem that way because as I said I get plenty of interest, but in the end almost all flake out... or they tell me they want to "bottom".

Any suggestions?

[Guest barehole4use]

On 2/14/2021 at 10:03 PM, NewMexicoVirgin said:

Any suggestions?

Honestly you are setting yourself up to fail but maybe an option that might work for you is outdoor cruising but you will need to compromise on your shopping list, most guys don't get 100% what they want at the best of times & your shopping list is not helping either. I am wondering why you are on a bareback site if you want safe sex ?

That alone tells me you are not being honest with yourself or others here, as for finding cruising locations you should try a website called squirt dot org they have updated cruising locations as well as trying cruisingforsex dot com. I have spaced it out for you because i cannot send you the direct links on this site - hope you get what you supposedly & happy hunting.

[NewMexicoVirgin]

11 hours ago, barehole4use said:

Honestly you are setting yourself up to fail but maybe an option that might work for you is outdoor cruising but you will need to compromise on your shopping list, most guys don't get 100% what they want at the best of times & your shopping list is not helping either. I am wondering why you are on a bareback site if you want safe sex ?

That alone tells me you are not being honest with yourself or others here, as for finding cruising locations you should try a website called squirt dot org they have updated cruising locations as well as trying cruisingforsex dot com. I have spaced it out for you because i cannot send you the direct links on this site - hope you get what you supposedly & happy hunting.

Honest question...

What is out of line with my shopping list?

"Clean, safe, and sane"

Clean as in they take care of themselves (take a shower and ease up on the BO, brush your teeth more than once a month, etc)

Safe as in they have been tested (is that too much to ask?) As I said I want my first anal experience to be 100% bare, same for oral. But many guys only want to use a rubber. Ill give head with one if they insist, but my first anal will be bare... period.

Sane as in they aren't wacko flakes. Ive started out emailing back and forth with a few guys and they seemed like a great fit, but then BAM! An example was a married guy who said he was a total top, had been tested, just wanted someplace to blow his load once a week since his wife wasn't giving him anything. We talked a bit and I wanted to set up a meet. Then he says that he really just wants to bottom because he couldn't get it up anymore. Another common one is guys who seem ready, they only want to unload, no strings, want to meet regularly, then just make excuse after excuse to not meet. They keep emailing saying they are ready, but then at the last minute they cant, and they do it repeatedly. The two examples above are the ones I run into constantly over and over.

Again these are honest questions. 

[Guest barehole4use]

6 hours ago, NewMexicoVirgin said:

Honest question...

What is out of line with my shopping list?

"Clean, safe, and sane"

Clean can mean many things, some idiots refer to it as are you clean from std's or did you clean your ass & others like YOU refer to that as did you take a shower, it's not clear & pretty stupid to ask this in the first place ! Most guys who are real bare backers are aware of this.

Safe is also a Fucking dumb ass question to ask, what does safe actually mean, are you going to meet a guy & start asking these questions, if your answer is yes most like he will be telling you to f*ck off pretty quickly.

Sane  : Most guys know what this means normally referring to chems & the like or stuff like edge play but a few don't so again you will need to explain, all things considered i know what i would do if i came across you is run in the other direction because you sound like a BIG headache waiting to happen !

I am not surprised guys are avoiding you or you have not had a date, anyone who is this stupid should be avoided at all costs.

Edited February 18, 2021 by barehole4use
adding text for this retard.