Can't Cum in my Boyfriend's Ass

[jhandler]

Hello guys. I've been seeing my partner for about six months of hot intense sex. It's all good except that I can't manage to fuck him and cum in his ass. I enjoy fucking him, but it never gets to the point that my cock cums in his ass. It happens when I pull out and stroke it for a few minutes. I want to cum in his ass and he wants it too. Am I alone in this? Any suggestions...? Thanks.

[Guest]

I dont think it's uncommon. I also have a difficult time getting off without pulling out then stroking myself off. Really wish that wasn't the case.

[tnbiohazard]

I'd suggest trying different lubes. It may sound crazy, but some lubes can make a real difference. I find that for myself, any that have a mint base, or similar will prevent me from getting off. And depending on how "loose" it makes it feel, I might not get off. My old standard is petroleum jelly....but spit is a great natural lube. You might even try, if you're both piggish enough, having other guys fuck him first, putting their loads in him, then fuck him. I have known guys who can't resist shooting, and shooting quick if they know that their cock is going into an ass filled with other guys cum.

[Guest spitroast]

Just wondering how often you're wanking off. If its daily, or more. Try giving up for a week to ten days. Just maybe try edging as well. Also, although you haven't said so, stay off the chems, even poppers. And try resisting the urge to immediately get down and dirty! Build it slow and work up to it. I think it'll happen, just don't stress on it.

[Guest paul34]

Hey just put it in as your about to come man. Are you both the same status?

[Guest orelax]

I recently started topping again after a few years of being a bottom only, and it took me awhile before I could cum in a bottom's ass. My dick just wasn't used to it. It took me a couple months of practice before I could finally shoot inside without using my hands at all. Of course, giving up jacking-off 2 to 3 times a day has much has made me a better top too. I also agree that spit makes a great natural lube, and whenever I hook up with a bottom, my first question is always "can I use spit?"

[Guest timithym]

This all good advice.Have you tried playing with him as you fuck,perhaps he will react by sqeezing your cock with his arsehole and milking you.Talk really dirty to him

Goodluck

[Guest NewEngBtm]

Can't say I've had that many partners who couldn't breed me. But I have found guys who jerk off a lot or watch a lot of porn don't perform like they would want. One partner was frustrating sometimes because he couldn't stay excited or couldn't cum without taking matters into his own hand. When he backed off his usual jerking routine and just laid back and let me body worship him - I'm very oral - it was a lot easier to get him off. Nothing more frustrating that trying all you can and not being able to get a guy off.

What always worked for him was this routine of body worship. He would get hard as steel. It wouldn't take long after sitting on him or letting him plow the bejesus out of me and he could unload with a shout!

[Guest]

Good ideas, at least I think so. I'm going to stop JO daily and find a cute guy in a week or so to fuck and see how it goes!!!

[jhandler]

Thanks to all the guys that replied to my post.... will give your ideas a try and see how it goes.

[8DeepBottom]

This is great to learn. I like getting seeded with a juicy load, but see how jacking off can drain good tops.

I jack off a lot lately and I understand the need to drop a wad.

[realgbm]

I would say just relax. You are thinking about it too much. Since he is your bf, you probably would not fuck him as hard as you would do others. Before you fuck him, tell him you love him BUT I'm about to fuck you like a common trick then bang the shit out of him.

[realgbm]

It is not uncommon because he is your bf that you want to fuck him better than his previous bf's in the past. You try to extend the fuck session which sometime takes you past your cum point. Sometimes you have to think of him as just a hole that you want to dump in so you can get a good night's sleep.

[realgbm]

I'd suggest trying different lubes. It may sound crazy, but some lubes can make a real difference. I find that for myself, any that have a mint base, or similar will prevent me from getting off. And depending on how "loose" it makes it feel, I might not get off. My old standard is petroleum jelly....but spit is a great natural lube. You might even try, if you're both piggish enough, having other guys fuck him first, putting their loads in him, then fuck him. I have known guys who can't resist shooting, and shooting quick if they know that their cock is going into an ass filled with other guys cum.

I would agree with tnbiohazard. CHANGE LUBES. It is good to switch things up every now and then. For the longest time, we used a silicone based lubed and now we are using Crisco. It stays slick; it is cheap as hell, and it cleans up easier than the silicone lube. You can also try using a little less lube so you can feel the tightness of his hole around your cock.

[Hard8Stud]

I know a lot has happened in the past 6 years, especially since March 2020.  But, how about an update?  I take it, since you didn't post anything after the suggestions, that things must have gone better.  My suggestion to add would be perhaps jacking off less often, at least when you expect to enjoy each other.  Also, if either of you thinks of something you haven't done, at least in awhile, try it because variety helps; things like enjoying each others' bodies during 69 can also help get you mind away from depending on solo sex to climax.  Sometimes, I wait too long before cumming because of enjoying the continued play and so must concentrate on getting hard again before completing fucking and cumming inside.  The other side of that is your boyfriend can help by exercising in a way to strengthen his glutes and thereby tighten his ass.  Just a little more first-hand experience to help—hopefully mostly others by now.

If things did work out, please let us know so that others can learn from your first-hand experience.