For me, being effeminate since day 1, it was just the natural order of things I suppose. Having a relatively girlish body to go with the fem mannerisms, voice etc, I’ve always generally seemed to attract “str8”/married type guys and DL men of color. Dominant types, hyper masc that I guess are turned on by my fem style.
I’m also very into leather and that whole scene, and when I was younger, a lot of guys didn’t seem to mind that I was fem, but as I got older, it’s less frequent that I find myself in a really hot leather scene.