I think actively looking to become POZ, is a choice, but most zero conversions happen by accident, still. That was my case. I would not tell you what to do, and I won't preach either, but I will tell you how traumatic was for me back in 1992 to find out I tested positive. Far from being a hot and horny feeling, I felt like I was going to die the next day. Afraid and depressed. Not a sexy feeling. I went through a major depression. Support groups didn't work for me because the participants were cry babies just hogging all the allowed time in the discussion to talk about how bad they had it, giving the others no time to talk. Useless. However, I met a mother there that inspired me a lot and I am very grateful, forever to her. Her son and his partner actually gave me some meds they no longer were using. It took me over a year to realize that life goes on and in a way it was for me kind of being reborn but not in the religious context. Religion is out of my life, BTW. Of course, I had a great pillar of support in the form of my friend Ron who became POZ in 1990 and he gave me pointers as to how to live a so called "normal" life. Sadly, he passed away in 1996, before the famous cocktail was available to POZ people. No med did the trick for him. Since becoming POZ, I have traveled a lot, met many, many men, became a slut and learn to own it and enjoy it. I came out to those in my family I thought needed to know and I got their support. I bought a house, got new cars, new jobs and started enjoying sex with and without protection and without the worry of trying to stay negative. I do disclose my status and it is up to my top to wear a condom or not. I have yet to turn down someone for wearing a rubber when fucking me in the ass. I am more afraid nowdays of crabs and other STDs. Just keep in mind, if you decide to become POZ, a month's supply of Atripla runs between $1400-1800, of course if you have insurance it is a different tune, you just worry for your co-payment and meeting your deductibles every year. There are a lot of new meds out there just in case one doesn't work for you, as many meds as there are side effects. Plus there is still some stigma associated with being POZ. If you asked me, I honestly would have preferred to stay negative, but once you become POZ there is no turning back. I think our families are the ones that suffer most, since most people are uneducated about how HIV/AIDS is transmitted. Some "straights" and "bi" still think is a "Gay disease". Ha! Those idiots are in for a fucking rude awakening. Fucking someone in the asshole and/or cunt can make you POZ just the same. We POZ men and women just go on with our lives and try to stay undetectable and healthy, just like I have been for many years. Happy hunting!